Sex addict shares how she gets her ‘fix’ in anonymous confession
A self-identified sex addict admits to hooking up with three different men in one night and meeting with guys just to have sex.
“They wouldn’t even have to take me to dinner first,” the anonymous woman wrote in a confession to Australia’s Gold Coast Bulletin. “You don’t want to get too full before a bedroom romp, after all.”
Being in a monogamous relationship makes dealing with her condition a little easier because “you always have someone to get your fix with and don’t have to worry about catching anything because of your addiction,” she shares.
Her life is often a balancing act. One night she slept with two men before moving on to the third, whom she was “supposed to be seeing at the time.” She’s also tried to juggle three sexual partners with the same first name.
“You really have to be careful when sending a text message in a hurry, especially when they’re of the opinion you’re only seeing them,” she wrote.
The woman admits to feeling especially guilty and ashamed because she always thought of men as the sex-obsessed gender.
“Aren’t (women) the ones who are supposed to feign a headache to get out of doing the deed?” she asks in her confession.
Sex addiction isn’t about enjoying sex or having a lot of it, explains Dr. John Giugliano of Widener University, who specializes in social work. It becomes an issue when it can’t be controlled.
“They want to stop and reduce the behavior, but they can’t,” he says. “And the behavior becomes increasing risky.”
It is unclear from the anonymous Aussie’s confession whether she enjoys sex or needs it, Giugliano adds.
“She doesn’t distinguish any real problem with this other than it is hard to coordinate it all,” he said. “I’m just wondering what her story is.”
Sex addiction’s validity has been questioned for years. Critics call it an excuse for extramarital affairs often used by actors and politicians.
Celebrities including Michael Douglas, Russell Brand and David Duchovny have all admitted to seeking treatment for the addiction. Tiger Woods famously entered rehab, reportedly for sex addiction, after coming clean about cheating on his then-wife.
There is even controversy surrounding what to call sex addiction. Some professionals use the term “hypersexuality,” while others prefer “compulsive sexual behavior.”
But many professionals agree that it’s a real disorder, no matter what you call it.
“I don’t care what term you use for it,” said Dr. Rachel Needle, a certified sex therapist in West Palm Beach, Florida, “what’s most important when working with clients is, when they are struggling with something, I can help them.”